Stop for a second and look at your mind, what do you see? Do you see yourself constantly looking into the future or do you find yourself trapped in the past? Do you see stress and overwhelm?
Do you ever ask yourself why you are trapped in this mind set? Do you ever want to really get out of this cycle or do you think it will magically disappear on its own and one day it will all be just fine? I can tell you right now that is not going to happen because you have to take control for yourself. You have to be willing to let go. You have to be able to stand on the cliff and step off into the unknown. A step into a new world, one without the vicious never-ending cycle of fear and stress.
If you had just one wish what would it be? I bet it was all about your health. Nothing is more important to you than your mental health.
Let’s do a mental health check-up. After all we go to the GP for our physical health for a check-up every so often but we never think to have a mental health check-up.
We are quite happy to spend day after day feeling less than and just coping or pretending everything is ok, but going to bed every night mentally exhausted from constantly trying to survive.
Your mind is constantly trying to tell you what is wrong and what needs healing, but we just never take the time to listen. What if we promised ourselves to spend a few minutes a day just listening. After all, what have you got to lose! We are quite happy to devote every waking hour to the negative but not one minute to doing something positive. We have absolutely convinced ourselves that the answer lies in a drink or a movie or anything else that stops us from looking within.
So, let’s start with a few questions and all you have to do is answer truthfully. No-one is watching or listening, it’s just you.
How often do you feel tired for no good reason?
Do you ever feel that you’ve been affected by feelings of edginess, anxiety, or nerves?
How often do you feel hopeless?
How often did you feel restless or fidgety?
How often do you feel depressed?
How often do you feel that everything is an effort?
How often did you feel so sad that nothing could cheer you up?
How often do you feel worthless?
Have you ever experienced an ‘attack’ of fear, anxiety, or panic?
Have you noticed any changes? Difficulty sleeping? Restlessness?
How frequently have you been bothered by not being able to stop your worrying?
How often have you felt as though the future was bleak?
If your answers shocked you a little, maybe it’s time to find a new path.
We all have free-will to do with what we want. It’s our choice how we act and re-act. Think of this pandemic. We can have a positive outlook or a negative one. It’s up to us which we choose. We can blame others if we want to but you will stay a slave to your lower mind and we will never know the inner peace we so desperately crave.
Think of your thoughts as arrows in a quiver on your back and your freewill is a bow in your hand. Your freewill takes an arrow out of the quiver and puts it in your bow and fires them. It’s always up to you whether you fire the arrow. Even when you have it in the bow ready to fire, it’s not too late you can always put it back. You get to choose. You get to be in control.
First, we must look at our instinctive reactions. What are yours? Stop and think of some recent events and your reactions to them. Did you respond in the same way and have the same reaction? I hope you weren’t expecting a different outcome.
It is the case for all of us, we get caught up in our negative thoughts and before we know there are so many arrows being fired we can no longer see clearly. We will always have experiences, that is what we came to do. These experiences help us to grow, but our reactions need to be refined or matured.
Once you have looked at your reactions and have an awareness of them it will be easier to change them. It will be easier to stop and take control and react differently. We have been given the freewill to act and react any way we want. We need to use this freewill to stop, think and then act. It takes courage and steadfastness to stop before firing, but the more we practice the better we will become. Taking responsibility for your mind set is a very difficult thing to do, but such a rewarding one.
It takes one thought and that thought is:
“I have had enough, I can’t do this mindset any longer. I want to change”
When you can really say that and mean it, congratulations you are on your way.
When you are ready to take that first step contact me and we will do it together.